As I write this blog post, exactly a year ago, I was getting ready to walk down the aisle....
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| Photo by Darien O'Dell |
In a recent "haters-comments-frenzy", some readers have actually judged me and Mica by saying that we have married for the wrong reasons--that we have made weddings into a fashion show/carnival and that we didn't marry in the eyes of god, family, and friends.
On the contrary though, the wedding theme is just icing on the cake. What judgmental people fail to realize is that the wedding's most important element is the ceremony itself and that obviously it is not captured in photos and videos that's why it doesn't seem to shine through. In our case, the personal vows was one of the most significant parts of our wedding. Before writing mine, I didn't research or anything like that. But boy was I prepared. I had tried to write, re-write, and practice it in my head over and over again, before going to sleep, for 12 months.
The first draft of my vows were eight pages long and it was a little too serious and heavy. I realized this wasn't really reflective of us as a couple. So a revised it to make it more lighthearted, witty, and unique in my own little way. Another reason why I made my vows "light" was because I didn't want to cry at all. I am the type of person who, if I start to cry, I wouldn't be able to finish my sentences, so I really had to make sure I didn't cry (even if it meant that I had to bite my tongue).
A lot of guests said they liked Cy's vows more than mine, because Cy's vows made them cry. I wasn't going for a cry-fest though. I was going for making everyone feel happy =)
I'd like to share my personal vows here. To remind me of this beautiful, beautiful moment and to pay tribute to our anniversary. And as I write the vows, I don't have a copy with me. I've known it by heart since 2010 =)
Here goes...
Cy, I've divided my vows into 3 parts.
First part is what I call:
DESTINY, QUESTION MARK
The first time we met, I was so confused.
I didn't know if we were friends, or if we were dating.
I was SO confused that I even went to a fortune teller, "Madame Shakey's"
She didn't know me, I didn't tell her why I was there.
But for some reason, she said that out of all the guys that I have met, she liked "M C C" the most.
"M C C" was "matangkad at mabilog ang katawan"
Then Madame Shakey's pointed to a guy in Shakey's and said: "Ayan O, ganyan ang buhok niya"
And I got so freaked out because the guy had the same hairstyle as yours.
I like him out of all the guys because he is the kindest.
And don't worry. "Tahimik lang yun pero tingin ng tingin sayo"
Finally Madame Shakey's said, I can see some sort of document. A document that could be marriage.
And she said that if any of her predictions ever came true, that I should go tell her all about it.
Was it fate? Was it destiny? Did you actually pay her to say those things?
Or was it the Universe telling me, it was time to meet you?
All I know is, just for fun, maybe I should look for Madame Shakey's and introduce to her
"M C C".
Part 2 is what I call MANAGING EXPECTATIONS
