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Showing posts with label rebellious thoughts. Show all posts

Vogue & Bride Magazine Says There's No Need to Feed Wedding Photographers -- No Need to Hire them at All

It's been a while since we wrote an impassioned article here on the blog. But Vogue and Brides Magazine's latest faux pas deserve one.

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That Thing Called Marriage

Sometimes, we don't always do a post on wedding features or suppliers or concepts. Sometimes, we take a step back and dwell on the core of the whole hullabaloo -- that thing called marriage. So, the question is, are you really really really ready for this? 

To start with, we do not claim to be marriage experts. It's just that being married in all, we find that it helps to know that you are practically in the same boat as most couples out there. That we are not alone in this roller coaster ride called marriage. That and there's this article trending in Facebook entitled:

The Marriage Secret No One Wants To Admit. 

With tons of marriage advice articles out there, this one stood out. Because it's real. Because we're all just human at the end of the day. Because not all fights means you are in a crumbling marriage. 

You see, with the glitz and glamor and cheesy photos depicted on wedding photos (or getty images for that matter), you never really get to capture the other side. That other side that helps couple grow wiser and stronger. Nope, you don't see that in photos. And oftentimes, we are bombarded with the perfect couple photos that one small fight and we feel like we are failures. 

So what is the secret? Let us tell you this. It can get ugly sometimes. Over small things like towels on the floor. Or toilet seats. Or blanket hogging. And it's okay as long as you commit to sticking together through anything, then go ahead and make epic battles. 

Then kiss and makeup after, which is the fun part!

We have had epic battles but our mantra is to hold each others hand tightly to signal we're okay. It's all good.
Here's the whole article just in case you don't have time for the link:

 By Lyz Lenz for YourTango

When one of my friends got engaged, he was over the moon. At dinner one night, he told my husband how much he was in love.
"It's like nothing I've ever felt before!" he said so sweetly that it was easy to forgive him the cliche.
"I know," my husband said smiling at me. "It's great being in love."
"No," our friend said shaking his head. "This is different than what you have. We never fight, ever."
I winced, but my husband maintained his gracious smile. "That's great! We can't wait to be at that wedding."
Six months after their wedding, I got a call from our friend. I could tell something was bothering him. "Are you alright?" I asked.
"Yeah," he said. "It's just that we fought and it was really bad."

 After talking with him some more, I learned that a "really bad" fight meant that she walked out of the room on him only to return a half-hour later to apologize.

 I told him about our fights. I told him how we had both slammed doors, said really horrible things, stomped, and not only left the room but left the house for hours on end, returning to fight again instead of make up. I told him how I, in a fit of anger, had thrown away an entirely good batch of cookies just so my husband couldn't eat them. I had also hidden cookies, turned up the thermostat and left every single light on in the house (including flashlights and closet lights), just to irk my husband. Also, once, I air-conditioned the outside. I still haven't apologized for that. 
When I finished, we were both laughing and my friend was breathing easier.

When love is newly minted, it's easy to be insular and believe that you and your partner have everything figured out, that nothing can ever shake you, you will never fight, and nothing so stupid as socks on the floor could ever make you raise your voice at that adorable face. I don't mean to be condescending. It's a great time. Every couple has it and it is my sincere wish that it lasts as long as possible.
But it doesn't.

 At some point in every marriage, you will find yourself sobbing into your pillow over toothpaste caps and if you don't, you're a Stepford Wife.

 When Dave and I got married, no one told us about these ugly moments -- when something as simple as sweeping the floor can cause you to question whether you've committed to the right "forever after." A friend once told me that she felt horrible for questioning her choice of spouse until she told her mom, who has been married for 50 years. "Oh honey," her mom said, "I ask that question at least once a week."

In the early days of our marriage, I felt ashamed about coming clean about our arguments. Wasn't I being disloyal? Wouldn't people think horrible things about us? But the truth is, the more I talked to married couples, the more I realized how normal it is to occasionally slam a door, or hide a cookie, or lay in bed and wonder if you just committed to the same old remote control fight for as long as you both shall live. 

I am forever indebted to a couple who told my husband and me a story about their epic battle over putting together a bookshelf. During the heat of the fight, the husband walked out of their apartment. The wife then decided the best way to make him sorry was to eat an entire pie his mother had made for him. When he came back, he found his wife, in the middle of the kitchen floor, her face covered in blueberry pie, crying. He grabbed a fork and joined her. They've been married for 20 years.

 At the time, I remember feeling shocked. How could they say they had a good marriage when they were both that ridiculous?

That, of course, was before I stooped low and hid the cookies. Now, I cling to that blueberry pie story like a talisman. On my worst days, it reminds me, we can be both dumb and happily married. I'm not condoning acts of childishness or silly fights. It's good to always keep perspective, but the truth is you can't always keep perspective. In those moments, when you've lost all dignity and you are covered in blueberry pie and crying on the floor, just know, it's OK. We've all been there, whether we admit it or not. 

Recently, during a fight, I told my husband, "You know what? I'm OK with this fight. I know I have the rest of my life to spend making you learn how to do the laundry."
"That's right," he said, "and I have the rest of my life to train you to turn the lights out in the house." Then, we went to bed, still a little angry, but very much committed to figuring it out as long as we both shall live.
Photos by Marky Cantalejo
The Elevator Fight

I have long forgotten what we fought about but my favorite story is this one battle inside an elevator. It was just the two of us and I was hanging on to my usual weapon called the silent treatment. It drives my husband crazy. Specially because he wants to talk. And in exasperation he decides to pick his weapon of choice -- walking out. So he presses a floor to exit from the elevator. But we're already moving up and it passes by the floor he just pressed. He literally presses almost all of the buttons but the door wouldn't open. The damn elevator wouldn't let him do a proper walk out! I try my best to stifle my laughter. Then he looks at me and we both burst out laughing. I was laughing so hard I was crying! Silly fools! And just like that, we were okay. I hold on to that moment as a reminder that we'll do just fine.

And you know what? You guys out there will do just as fine. Just fine.





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Marian & Dingdong's Prenup is AWESOME


The first time RB Mica and I saw Dingdong and Marian's teaser prenup photo, we were giddy and totally impressed. We thought it was awesome, we thought it was absolutely unexpected and for that we commend them for being REBELLIOUS.
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The Little WHITE LIE

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"Years after your wedding, you will look back and will laugh at how you ridiculously wore a red dress." 
-- The harsh, mean words said by an aunt to a bride, translated in English

 A rebellious bride shared with us of her upcoming beautiful wedding. She excitedly showed her pegs--how she wanted a picnic organic wedding. Everyone will be in all-white, there will be white lily chairs, set against the backdrop of a beautiful ancestral white house. The twist was that she wanted to wear a short red dress and her fiancee wanted to be in shorts. Their parents were surprisingly, in full support. The bride's mom, was even defending her daughter to those who doubted her choices--that as long as her daughter was in the right, as long as they loved one another, and as long as she was getting the wedding she wanted then she couldn't ask for more. But there was a catch. The bride couldn't 100% enjoy her wedding preps because her aunt was totally against her wearing a red dress. The aunt was so against it that she even did the unthinkable--she declined to be the couple's godmother when she found out about the red dress, and even went as far as to say the mean words quoted above among other unsolicited comments insinuating that this was a sinful decision that God will not approve of. 

What I don't understand is why a person would exert so much effort to burst a person's bubble. A bride's wedding to be exact. And why do we do this? WHY? Knowing that a person can get hurt. Knowing that words can stab.

So to all the brides out there who are toying with the idea of colored gowns but are afraid of the potential bullying you might go through, we present you with two options. First option is to let it go. You cannot please everybody! As long as you are happy, learn to tune out these nasty words and channel your energy to the happy wedding preps. Second option is to FIGHT BACK WITH FACTS. What do we mean by this? They say that White is the traditional bridal color right? Well, what if we tell you THAT'S NOT TRUE.

Yes, you read that right. White gowns actually just started as a TREND whereas colored bridal gowns were the real norm. What happened was, a Queen wanted to "go against the flow" and wore white to her wedding, then some bloke created a mean poem about gown colors, while another bloke invented a symbolism for white gowns, then Coco Chanel made a short bridal gown in white then BOOM! White became the new tradition and colored gowns became a mockery. So if you want to fight back, tell your aunt or whoever that you are actually following the REAL tradition! Because colored bridal gowns WERE the real tradition back then. 

Do you think we are making this up? Here's a little bit of History:

The History of the White Wedding Dress

by Kelsey McIntyre, Guest writer
lifted from:  http://www.fromtimespast.com/wedding.htm

White was not the usual color for bridal gowns
 White has long been accepted as the traditional color of the wedding dress, but wedding gowns were not always white. The marriage of Queen Victoria to her cousin Albert of Saxe- Coburg in 1840 has had more influence on weddings than any other. Queen Victoria put the wheels in motion by marrying in white.  
 Though brides continued to wed in gowns of different colors, white was now set as the color of choice for weddings and has continued ever since. In Godey’s Lady’s Book, 1849, this statement was printed: “ Custom has decided, from the earliest ages, that white is the most fitting hue, whatever may be the material. It is an emblem of the purity and innocence of girlhood, and the unsullied heart she now yields to the chosen one.”
There is an old poem about how the color of your wedding dress will influence your future:  

“Married in white, you will have chosen all right. Married in grey , you will go far away. Married in black, you will wish yourself back. Married in red, you’ll wish yourself dead. Married in blue, you will always be true. Married in pearl, you’ll live in a whirl. Married in green, ashamed to be seen, Married in yellow, ashamed of the fellow. Married in brown, you’ll live out of town. Married in pink, your spirits will sink.”  (Sidenote: Imagine the power of mean words at work here. Someone thought of a mean poem and here we are today. Struggling with our decisions for wearing a bloody colored gown!!!! )


The Industrial Revolution also brought about change. By the 1890’s and the arrival of the department store, almost every woman could realize her dream of being married in a “new” wedding dress. The white dress was gaining popularity and in 1890, Ladies Home Journal wrote: “That from times immemorial the bride’s gown has been white”. Although this statement was NOT true, it shows how deeply accepted it was that a wedding gown be white. Although white was popular, some brides, especially the frontier brides, wore dresses that were more practical and could be worn after the wedding. As wedding dresses closely resembled the fashions of the time, only a little alteration was needed for the dress to be perfect to wear again.

Chanel 1920s short bridal gowns
 Edwardian brides took the traditions of their Victorian ancestors to new extremes. Fashions became more extravagant as the decade progressed, but came to a screeching halt with the outbreak of WWI. Styles became simpler, and also reflected the changing role of women in society with hems getting shorter and the disposing of tightly laced corsets. Coco Chanel was a powerful force behind the change in women's’ fashions, and was the one who officially introduced the short wedding dress in the 1920’s. It was a white knee length dress worn with a long train. This cemented white as the universal color of the wedding dress.

The fact of the matter is, white was not the traditional bridal color. But society was able to 'manipulate' us into thinking this because of Queen Elizabeth, Godey's Lady's Book, a stupid Anonymous Poem, the department stores from the Industrial Revolution, the Ladies Home Journal, and of course Coco Chanel. And so was White really the tradition? It most certainly was not. It's not even driven by religion. It was driven by a TREND. The moral of the story? Let's be inquisitive ladies. And if our ideas are being mocked, play "FACTS" with even more groundbreaking FACTS. For more information, CLICK HERE

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Rebellious Brides Present: The Bigger Picture

Photography by MangoRed
Hello rebels! How's wedding planning so far? This long (but very special) piece that we are about to share with you, is perfect for those who just got engaged and are just in the first stages of the wedding planning. But even if you are already midway into your wedding preps, this could still help you take control of your preps especially if things are already getting out of hand.  

 Maybe the love of your life just proposed. And all these ideas about the wedding are already pumping you up. And that's okay. It's part of what makes the engagement and the planning exciting. You'll probably start buying all the wedding magazines that you can get your hands on, secretly feeling special that you can finally buy them. You'll start searching the web, and start scheduling for your wedding expo trips.You start to form the kind of wedding you want--go ahead, absorb all the things you see, read, and hear. Just let it flow. But don't feel like you have to decide now or that this is how your wedding should be.

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Just say Y-E-S

When everybody is doubting your ideas, when everybody is trying to pull you down, when everybody is saying your ideas veer away from what is expected of a wedding, read this blog and remember these words:

 "Say yes when you see something you love. Say yes when you hear something you love. 

Say yes when you taste something you love. Say yes when you smell something you love. 

Say yes when you touch something you love. It doesn’t matter if you have it or not, say yes to it, because then you are choosing it!" 

---From The Power by Rhonda Byrne

 Enjoy your wedding preps, and be true to yourself. And if the going gets tough, always remember that you have a home in our blog--we celebrate your topak (crazyness) and you can email us if you need a rebellious cheerleader!

XOXO,
Kai & Mica

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Is a Wedding "JUST" a Day?

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We are firm believers that we shouldn't all be caught up in all the wedding hullabaloo. That's why we encourage you all to be inquisitive with the traditions dictated to you, and that's also the reason why we also encourage you to learn how to eliminate unnecessary expenses and only prioritize those that will really last a lifetime.

But to go as far as to say that a wedding is "JUST" a day? We'd like to hear what you guys think of this.

Every bride whether they prefer to have a simple civil wedding, a lavish church wedding, or a whole week of celebration, should be able to celebrate it the way you would want to celebrate it. Correct? One night, I heard someone getting super upset that a friend decided to "JUST" have a civil wedding--to her, it was like a sin to do so. Which was a bit sad, really.

Here's my own opinion and you are all open to form your own: A wedding is not "JUST a day". How can it JUST be a day when you are about to marry the love of your life? How can it JUST be a day when it symbolizes a milestone in a woman's life? A day you've dreamt all your life? You have every right to make your wedding your own special day. "JUST" a day? To even insult what a wedding stands for, to insult a bride who wants to make her wedding her own, is a form of bride bullying. No to bride bullying!

Now I know of people who don't believe in marriage or in weddings--heck there are even some who don't believe in having kids! But they say that it is just their own personal view and they respect those that do believe in the institution. To each his own, but without trying to pull others down.

Apart from the couples who want to get married and want to make a big deal out of it, there's also the people who make weddings possible. Do you guys remember the scene in The Devil Wears Prada when Anne Hathaway's character found fashion to be shallow? And then Meryl Streep explained to her how fashion drives businesses, puts food on the table for those who work in the industry, etc. etc. Then I think of all the wedding artists who work in this industry, trying to make an honest living out of the talents/specialized jobs that they can do that are related to weddings. And then I go back again to this Devil Wears Prada scene and I can't help think it's the same principle.

What do you guys think? Is a wedding "JUST" a day? Have you no right to make it special the way you would define it for what it is?

Discuss! But gentle reminder please, let's not go as far as mentioning other people or pulling other people down. Just a friendly debate okay? :)

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"Style Me Pretty"

My lovely matron-of-honor Anna Antonino
in her own styled ensemble / Bonne
Headpiece by Rebellious Bunch Bonsai Fojas
Photo by Rebellious Bunch J Lucas Reyes
in Filmtastic
Our dear rebellious brides, when it comes to styling your entourage, please don't fall into the same mistakes as previous brides have done in the past.

The truth is, friends and family just love you so much that even if they don't feel confident and comfortable wearing the gown you have chosen for them, they just don't tell you (at least not to your face). They simply don't want to hurt you even if their own egos and confidence are getting hurt.

Even if you are the bride and it's your special day to shine, make your entourage happy and pretty--don't make them feel fat, or ugly or broke.

We're not saying you are intentionally doing so--but you MIGHT be unknowingly doing it--especially when you are model-esque and look good in anything--well sister--not everyone does.

Here are some mishaps that have been shared with us via direct messages by previous entourage members, and later on we will provide some suggestions on how to style your entourage pretty.

1. Please don't choose unflattering styles. Thin, sexy brides fall into this trap all the time--they think everyone else has a rockin' body and would look fab in dresses that don't look exactly nice to some. Remember that some girls wanna accentuate while some girls want to hide a body part. Learn to put yourselves in your friends' shoe. REBEL X says: "How would YOU feel if you were forced to wear an empire cut gown that makes you look preggers?"

REBEL X: "NEWSFLASH! Loose dresses look good on stick-figure models. We're not models. Don't let us wear dresses that make us look preggers" (lifted from: stylefrizz.com)

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Personal Weddings VS Creative Weddings


Are you ready to cross over the rainbow
to look for your own personal wedding path?
Photo by Three Nails Photography

We're sorry to say this, but we have more than 400,000 weddings on average, every year, in this country-- but so few that genuinely reflect the couple's personal style in their truest form.

And it's not our fault. On one hand, there are just too many rules & traditions being dictated by society. But on the other side of the spectrum, there's also TOO many ideas in magazines & blogs on how to make your wedding creative that sometimes, a couple will just cherry pick 'trendy' ideas and bundle it all up into one.
 
Then it all just gets confusing, doesn't it? 

What to do and not what to do!?!?!?

Answer:  Go for a PERSONAL Wedding. Take the time to just close your eyes and cover your ears. Don't listen to anyone else but you and your groom. Don't read any wedding magazine/blog for just a few minutes. FIND YOUR OWN WEDDING FROM WITHIN.

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from Tacky to Classy

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If there's one situation where rebelliousness is not quite appropriate, it's going against a wedding's dress code. Not only is it rude, you'll also stick out like a sore thumb.

Here are some tips for guests and then later on, some tips for couples on how to help your guests to conveniently understand your dress code.

Tacky Colors - If you don't have a dress that is the same or close to the wedding's color palette, it's perfectly fine to wear whatever colored dress that you have. HOWEVER, there are two colors that are kind of tacky to wear to someones wedding, UNLESS you asked permission from the couple that they don't mind.

Black Dress lifted from: http://www.omwall.com/ and White Dress lifted from: aliexpress.com

Some brides are sensitive when it comes to guests wearing black on their wedding day because some associate it with mourning or even death. If you don't follow the same belief, or assume that she won't mind is besides the point. As a courtesy, ask first if it's okay to wear black.

The same holds true with wearing white. For very obvious reasons, the bride will be wearing white and stealing someones thunder during her wedding day is just a little too much. Again, don't assume that the bride is cool about it. It's not so hard to ask. If the bride says it's okay, then go ahead (but really, even if the bride says it's okay, and white wasn't purposely the dress code, why wear white if the bride is in white?)

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Gentle Reminder: Manners Matter

Understandably, when you are planning your wedding you go through a lot of stress. There are times when you are just really a bundle of nerves, tempers rise, and you have a gazillion things running through your head. But at the end of the day our dear rebellious brides and grooms, there's a difference between "trabaho lang, walang personalan" (this is just work, it's not personal) and treating your wedding team in a more well-mannered way. Please do not forget that manners matter.

When you hire your dream wedding team, you went through a grueling process on who to get. The mere fact that you went through so much trouble, thought, and heart into selecting your team, means you admire their work and you have high respect for their craft. And just because you pay good money, doesn't give you the license to forget that they are the people you hired to make your wedding a reality.  Think of your wedding team as your partners. You artists. Your wedding family. Think of them this way and you instantly change your mindset into giving them a little bit more kindness.

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When the Going Gets Tough...

Are you feeling like you are a drowning bride?  (Photo by Mark Mawson)
Dear Rebellious Brides,

Did you ever feel like you are about to give up? Like you don't want to push through with the wedding anymore? Not because you don't love the person but rather, because of all the stress---physically, emotionally, mentally, and even financially? It's so hard to juggle especially since I'm the only one mostly taking care of the details. I feel like I have so much to do but I have so much little time. I feel like I am drowning and I am being dragged even further with one meltdown after another. Please help me! 

--Ms. Lost

Rebellious Bride Mica says:

We only had around six months for the wedding preps and despite the stress, we never even once thought of not pushing through. We'd joke around that we should just elope because of the gastos but in the end, we got a lot of help, everything fell into place and we had a wedding that we so love! :)

Read on to see Rebellious Bride Mica's advice!

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Sukob - Believe it? Or Defy it?

Creating a parody out of superstition is much more fun!
"I've been an avid follower of your blog. I was just wondering if you guys still believe in Sukob. If somebody within your family will get married the same year as yours, you have to wait for another year so that there won't be bad luck or misfortune.

So here's the thing. I've been married with my husband by law a month before our daughter was born. Last year, my husband and I got into a random conversation of making our dream wedding come true, so we started targeting 2013 as our year. And while we were starting to look for suppliers, we realized that they usually increase their rates every year. We calculated our budget and checked if we could push it through by 2012. Kaya naman. We couldn't keep our excitement so we told our parents and family about it early last year.

Then here comes an elder sister of mine, telling that she's planning to get married soon. I thought "soon" meant to be planning for 2013. But she said that she wanted this year. So my first selflessly reaction was Wooohooo! Sa wakas! She's turning 30 this year and everybody's married already. I was very happy that finally somebody will be there for her forever.

I actually do not believe in superstitious beliefs, but there's this saying that there's no harm if you just follow. We chose to be wed in December but it's the month that I first said "Yes" to my husband, not just for wedding season's sake. I don't care if our wedding date isn't included in the auspicious dates of 2012 because I only believe that there's a higher being that will continually bless our marriage whatever state we are in.

Now, when I tell people or friends that my sister and I are getting married the same year, all of them said, "Edi sukob yung kasal mo". And even if I don't believe that, there's a negative energy that crashes my heart and it bothers me. So I defend myself by saying that I don't believe in Sukob. And for some, a way for me not to get too upset is to think that I'm already married anyway. But it feels really discouraging. What if we're not civilly married, would they still choose to believe or not?"

Read on! 

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Personal Vows

As I write this blog post, exactly a year ago, I was getting ready to walk down the aisle....

Photo by Darien O'Dell


In a recent "haters-comments-frenzy", some readers have actually judged me and Mica by saying that we have married for the wrong reasons--that we have made weddings into a fashion show/carnival and that we didn't marry in the eyes of god, family, and friends.

On the contrary though, the wedding theme is just icing on the cake. What judgmental people fail to realize is that the wedding's most important element is the ceremony itself and that obviously it is not captured in photos and videos that's why it doesn't seem to shine through. In our case, the personal vows was one of the most significant parts of our wedding. Before writing mine, I didn't research or anything like that. But boy was I prepared. I had tried to write, re-write, and practice it in my head over and over again, before going to sleep, for 12 months.


The first draft of my vows were eight pages long and it was a little too serious and heavy. I realized this wasn't really reflective of us as a couple. So a revised it to make it more lighthearted, witty, and unique in my own little way. Another reason why I made my vows "light" was because I didn't want to cry at all. I am the type of person who, if I start to cry, I wouldn't be able to finish my sentences, so I really had to make sure I didn't cry (even if it meant that I had to bite my tongue).

A lot of guests said they liked Cy's vows more than mine, because Cy's vows made them cry. I wasn't going for a cry-fest though. I was going for making everyone feel happy =)

I'd like to share my personal vows here. To remind me of this beautiful, beautiful moment and to pay tribute to our anniversary. And as I write the vows, I don't have a copy with me. I've known it by heart since 2010 =)


Here goes...

Cy, I've divided my vows into 3 parts.


First part is what I call: 
DESTINY, QUESTION MARK


The first time we met, I was so confused.
I didn't know if we were friends, or if we were dating.
I was SO confused that I even went to a fortune teller, "Madame Shakey's"
She didn't know me, I didn't tell her why I was there.
But for some reason, she said that out of all the guys that I have met, she liked "M C C" the most.

"M C C" was "matangkad at mabilog ang katawan"
Then Madame Shakey's pointed to a guy in Shakey's and said: "Ayan O, ganyan ang buhok niya"

And I got so freaked out because the guy had the same hairstyle as yours.
I like him out of all the guys because he is the kindest.
And don't worry. "Tahimik lang yun pero tingin ng tingin sayo"
Finally Madame Shakey's said, I can see some sort of document. A document that could be marriage. 

And she said that if any of her predictions ever came true, that I should go tell her all about it.


Was it fate? Was it destiny? Did you actually pay her to say those things?
Or was it the Universe telling me, it was time to meet you?
All I know is, just for fun, maybe I should look for Madame Shakey's and introduce to her 
"M C C".


Part 2 is what I call MANAGING EXPECTATIONS

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"Dear Wedding Bloggers, You Suck"

Thank you to Jason Magbanua for sharing this link! :)
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We just LOVE the honesty of this blog entry written by photographer Meg Surly, from Hindsight Bride.  In this blog write-up, wedding bloggers are put under scrutiny for only featuring editorial-worthy brides, who have creatively polished weddings. And that wedding bloggers are at fault for making ordinary brides feel insecure and that their "normal" weddings are not feature-worthy. The write-up even further drills this down to fad photography and that photogs are equally at fault in creating this wedding madness. It also goes to the bottom of "listed" wedding vendors--and that you shouldn't instantly get them because it is paid advertisement. 


On one hand, we share the same sentiments. In fact, one of the reasons Mica and I were compelled to make our own blog is because we were saddened by the fact that there are wedding blogs that won't feature you if you are not part of the "creme dela creme" or will feature you but will even go as far as change your wedding write-up just so it would fit their own interest. We also don't like paid listings that's why our Rebellious Bunch list is only strictly "by invite" only. 


On the other hand though, we do understand that some blogs/sites do some sort of filtering because they only want to cater to a certain niche, so as a bride, I guess the more important thing is for you not to be gullible and to know first what type of bride you are--then that's the time you choose which blog/site is for you. You don't have to read each and every wedding blog out there, anyway--and you shouldn't be dictated by these things too. They are just inspirations! Bottom line is, it should still be YOUR decision and your wedding should speak of YOUR OWN personalities. 


This write-up is a very interesting read, but note however that it doesn't necessarily apply to the local scene as well. First of all, in the local scene, you have Bridal Book, W@W, and even yours truly, that feature and embrace brides of all shapes and sizes and from all walks of life. Second of all, in the local scene, the "fight" is not so much on being creative for the sake of creativity. The "fight" here in the Philippines, is more of inspiring brides to be independent and assertive from family and society who dictate decisions for the bride. And third of all, I truly believe that we have amazing photographers who are firm believers of naturally beautiful photographs---photos that are even more wicked in its raw form, photogs who are game-changers rather than "fad-ish"--that's why I think Filipino photographers are even flown to different countries around the globe because they are just in a whole other level! 


And with that being said, here's the blog article. Again, kudos to the honesty! Very refreshing indeed!

**taptap** Hello? Is this thing on? Oh, hey, wedding bloggers! I’m glad I have your attention. It’s your friendly neighborhood photographer here, sharing with you a little bit of insight from within the tiny walls of my office. You see, there’s a lot of blogging trends going on that I find particularly un-swoon-worthy. Of course, this is just my own humble opinion, but I am here to represent the other photographers and brides of the world who don’t feel heard or seen.


why aren’t we being heard or seen?


Why are our weddings being repeatedly rejected from wedding blogs? It is certainly not because of the quality of photography. I have repeatedly seen photography on blogs like Cockles and Pretties that would make a 3-year-old look like a pro. At the same time, I’ve seen gorgeous wedding photography shot by colleagues turned down for publication. Why? Because not all of our weddings include brides sporting bird nests in their hair, or pretty, young Anthropologie-swathed bridesmaids, or meticulously stenciled miniature burlap dinosaurs holding up place cards made from the recycled issues of Rolling Stone, or weddings held in obscure meadows that can only be reached via bush pilot or a team of sled dogs. Sound over the top? It is, but you publish this stuff daily! So what is the reality behind many weddings?

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Anti-White Part 2

(DISCLAIMER: The title is not meant to be a derogatory term)

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Anti-White Gown by Cecilio Abad (Photo by Nelwin Uy)
When we previously wrote about colored bridal gowns (read anti-white), we didn't have enough local references to create a stronger case for those of you out there who are still not convinced with this rebellious plan. But now we'd like to share with you, other real-life brides who have actually donned anti-white gowns!

Anti-White Gown by Veluz



Anti-White Gown by Veluz


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"ONE BIG FIGHT!"

No this is not about a basketball-themed wedding haha. Mica and I are not Atenians but if there's one thing about Ateneo that I find inspiring, it's their "One Big Fight" mantra which I'd like to apply here in Rebellious Brides.

Just the other day, we published a blog post that is meant to create awareness that Bride Bullying exists and we want it stopped. Let me ask you this--before Rebellious Brides, before Bridal Book, before Bride and Breakfast, where do you get your fix of wedding creativity? I get mine from US-based blog: Green Wedding Shoes. However, we know that no matter how much Filipina brides try to apply creative ideas found in blogs from a different part of the planet, the culture, the tradition, and the hold of parents and relatives are just very different around here. That's why these blogs can only be that--an inspiration, but sadly, not necessarily applied.

HOWEVER, we hope that you guys can change this. Are your wedding ideas worth the fight? We say it is. It's not just about the wedding and being able to execute what you want--it's about INDEPENDENCE.

As an inspiration, I'd like to show you one of the most creative and beautiful weddings I have seen recently in Green Wedding Shoes. We hope that looking at weddings like this could give you enough courage to own up to your wedding.

The Pixel Cowboy Wedding by Brit & Dave

Photos lifted from Green Wedding Shoes, Photography by David Stubbs

They were both geeky--as in worked at Google, lived in Silicon Valley, geeky. So how amazing is it that they've found an entire theme from PIXEL? This wedding has so many BRILLIANT ideas! Check it out!


The boys and girls of the entourage were styled so beautifully! The girls wore a tutu skirt, 
layered with denim vests and awesome cowboy boots! They held "pixelated" hear-shaped
wooden signages that says "Here Comes the Bride", "Love", "Laugh"

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